The agony of regret
- You feel limited
“Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.” (Isaiah chapter 41 verses 10)
13 – “And Moses said unto the people, Fear ye not, stand still, and see the salvation of the LORD, which he will shew to you to day: for the Egyptians whom ye have seen to day, ye shall see them again no more for ever.
14 – The LORD shall fight for you, and ye shall hold your peace.” (Exodus chapter 14 verses 13 to 14)
Time is the only valuable commodity in life that has real value and everyone needs to place so much value on it, because everyone of us has limited amount of it that when it is spent cannot be recovered for it is gone forever.
When people fail to make good use of their time especially at their young age, they tend to live in regret in their older age. Each day as an individual lives, he or she is growing older. No one can cheat nature. When you don’t value time when you are younger to invest it wisely, you might live the rest of your life in regret. It is wise if you asked yourself if you are making the most used of your time.
You have the capacity and it is in your power to elude the agony of regret which has the tendency to limit you from living your true life by managing every given opportunity well.
2. You feel defeated
8 – “We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair;
9 – Persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed;
10 – Always bearing about in the body the dying of the Lord Jesus, that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our body.” (2Corinthians chapter 4 verses 8 to 10)
As humans, we are bound to feel defeated and as well feel disappointed at the outcome of things. But that was never a reason why anyone should accept defeat. One can think whatever he or she feel at a particular result, but in all we have to accept it as a way of life and keep going. One of the greatest agony of regret is when someone accepts being defeated and never think to try again.
The agony of regret is when someone has no other option than to accept defeat as a result of one’s failure to handle issue wisely at the early stages. Do not quit what your capacity can handle today, for you might live to regret tomorrow by accepting defeat as the only option.
- You feel trapped
“Free me from the trap that is set for me, for you are my refuge.” (Psalms chapter 31 verses 4 NIV)
Sometimes in the journey to fulfill destiny, one might be trapped but that does not elude the chances to escape. We can always find a way of escape when we are focused on keeping the dream alive. If one fails to act as fast as possible for the reason of regretting why he or she was trapped in the first place, that might leave the person with the feeling of anger, hopelessness and frustration.
People are trapped when they think that the more they struggle to overcome, the more the challenges persist. They got stuck because they accepted being trapped and live the rest of their lives in regret.
- You feel worthless
“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them.” (Ephesians chapter 2 verses 10)
When one dwells on regret for so long as he or she should, it can lead to depression which can make one feel worthless. No matter what the situation is, one does not need to so much dwell on regret that he or she will loose value of oneself. Dwelling in regret that affects one’s self esteem can have a great effect on one’s mental health to make him or her to start feeling worthless about oneself.
Do not let the circumstances that surround your birth and upbringing to make you feel worthless about yourself. The family you are born into, and the family you are born into should not be your reason to feel worthless. Stop regret and accept the fact that you are born a solution to change the situation of things in your family.
- You feel irrelevant
1 – “O LORD, thou hast searched me, and known me.
2 – Thou knowest my downsitting and mine uprising, thou understandest my thought afar off.
3 – Thou compassest my path and my lying down, and art acquainted with all my ways.
4 – For there is not a word in my tongue, but, lo, O LORD, thou knowest it altogether.” (Psalms chapter 139 verses 1 to 4)
It is wise to know that everyone is born relevant. We are created in God’s image after God’s likeness that we will live relevant. We are created relevant and it is our responsibility to prove one’s relevance. In a time when everyone was born, it is out of the course each individual was created to correct. For the reason we are still alive, prove our relevance. The challenges one encounters is for him or her to prove one’s relevance.
Regret has a way of making one to start seeing him or herself as a failure thereby making him or her feel irrelevant. No single person is irrelevant until he or she allows regret displace his or her wonderful dreams. There is nothing new under the sun. Whatever you are facing, others have faced the same challenges some time ago. They never quit. They stood strong. Dwelling in regret can elude one from feeling relevant about oneself.
- You feel forsaken
“And about the ninth hour Jesus cried with a loud voice, saying, Eli, Eli, lama sabachthani? that is to say, My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me?” (Mathew chapter 27 verses 46)
Of course when one stays in regret more than he or she should, that can cause one to feel forsaken. Once one starts feeling forsaken, the next is that he or she will start feeling abandoned. You can’t allow regret to so grip your heart that you will feel forsaken. Feeling forsaken is worse than being lonely. For one to start feeling forsaken, he or she feel deserted by others and left alone completely.
Jesus on the cross carrying the sins of the world once felt forsaken but that was for the moment to pay the ultimate price for man’s sins. He felt forsaken so that you and I will never feel forsaken. Jesus paid it all for mankind.
- It brings untimely death
“For to him that is joined to all the living there is hope: for a living dog is better than a dead lion.” (Ecclesiastes chapter 9 verses 4)
Some persons have really regretted everything about life that the only thing they ever wished for themselves is death. They ask too many questions like God why did you create me in this world? Why are things so tough for me that nothing is working? Why is this and why is that? The more they dwell on regret, the more they don’t find any reason to live. When regret puts someone at the corner never to appreciate living, that person is in a terrible mess.
