God help me pick my spouse
No one should take the responsibility for selecting a life partner for anyone
This is one cry people are making which is not relevant. When I say it is irrelevant to ask God to pick a life partner for you, it is like dragging a horse to the stream and also be the one who will force the horse to drink water when you are aware that that very horse is not thirsty of water. That does not make sense. The horse should be able to identify the water as what it has been craving for. You can’t be craving for something and when the stuff is right before you, you go about asking questions if you can take hold of it when you have access.
It sounds ridiculous for someone to think that God will ever go all the way to be the one that will select life partner for anyone. It is an individual’s responsibility to choose whoever they desire. God has bestowed in every individual the power of will. The power to choose is an individual’s responsibility. No one should take the responsibility for selecting a life partner for anyone.
The will of man will always prevail when it comes to the final decision of chosing a life partner
21 – “And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
22 – And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
23 – And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
24 – Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” (Genesis chapter 2 verses 21 to 24)
In verses 21, the bible says that God brought her unto the man. You need to understand the place of man in making choices. God cannot force anything into a man’s life which he did not desire. God is a wise God. That He brought Eve to Adam does not mean He decided to select a life partner for adam. He brought her to Adam, if he had said otherwise, that would have made a difference. The will of man will always prevail when it comes to the final decision of chosing a life partner.
The power to select lies within the capacity of an individual
It is obvious that God can guide one through the process of how to locate and find a life partner but it is in an individual’s power to make the final decision. It was not God that made the decision for Adam to marry Eve. It was Adam’s decision to marry Eve. If Adam had said he does not find any compatibility in Eve, nothing would God had done about it. He would not even try to convince man.
Here is the point, marriage is a huge responsibility and it is never the business of boys. Marriage is the business of mature people. What makes someone mature on the account of marriage is his or her ability to take responsibility. God can take up the responsibility to guide anyone who desires the guidance of God in selecting life partner but that does not means God will make the selection. The power to select lies within the capacity of an individual.
Humanity is selfish that people can go as far as whatever to blame God for choosing a life partner for them
“Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” (Proverbs chapter 18 verses 22)
No matter how God was able to guide someone through the process of choosing a life partner, it is still the man who finds. Yes, the choice to find or not is one’s responsibility. Your ability to be able to choose a life partner makes one a man. If one has not the ability to take the full responsibility in choosing a life partner, he should stay away from marriage. One does not need to have double mind in choosing a spouse.
Any responsibility that leaves hundred percent responsibility on God is not worth it. There is a part of God when He is truly asked for assistance, it is the man’s responsibility to do the choosing. God cannot guide and at the same time make the choosing. You should be responsible for the choice you make. Humanity is selfish that people can go as far as whatever to blame God for choosing a life partner for them.
Marriage is a serious matter that requires one’s seriousness
Think about Adam’s statement in the garden of Eden on that very moment God questioned him for eating the forbidden fruit.
6 – “And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.
7 – And the eyes of them both were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together, and made themselves aprons.
8 – And they heard the voice of the LORD God walking in the garden in the cool of the day: and Adam and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the LORD God amongst the trees of the garden.
9 – And the LORD God called unto Adam, and said unto him, Where art thou?
10 – And he said, I heard thy voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself.
11 – And he said, Who told thee that thou wast naked? Hast thou eaten of the tree, whereof I commanded thee that thou shouldest not eat?
12 – And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat.” (Genesis chapter 3 verses 6 to 12)
Man accused God of bringing a wife to him. You have to make up your mind on what you want from a woman to spend the rest of your life with. If you do not know what you want, anything can serve. Do not be deceived, every lady is not for you. That is why it is very vital to discover purpose before saturating one’s heart with the issue of marriage. Marriage is a serious matter that requires one’s seriousness. Choosing a life partner is so serious that demands ultimate care.
Conclusion:
One needs to understand the difference between God guiding and man making the choice. God can guide a man towards chosen a life partner but it is the man’s responsibility choose. God will not do the guiding and also do the choosing for anyone. Everyone should take full responsibility of his or her decision. Every individual should be blamed and held responsible for the choice he or she makes. When it comes in relationship and finding the right partner, there is a part of God and there is also a part of man.
