Factors in choosing your spouse
Finding something precious, whether it’s a valuable object, a meaningful relationship, or a significant opportunity, involves a mix of strategy, patience, and awareness. Here are some key factors to consider:
- Clarity of Purpose:
You must know what you are called do before choosing a companion to help you to effectively accomplish it. Once one missed it in clarity of purpose, anyone can serve. It is difficult to find the right person when there is no clarity of purpose. Define what is precious to you. Knowing exactly what you are looking for helps direct your efforts and avoid distractions.
I once had a conversation with Tessy and she was telling me that she would not want to marry. At first I thought it was a mere slip of tongue. When she went ahead to repeat it again that was when I picked interest to asked her what happened. Yes I was concern seeing a young lady saying she wouldn’t marry with great enthusiastic. I asked her why? Then she opened up to me.
That her friend is being messed up in her marriage. That her husband is frustrating her life. I then asked her, so it is because of someone else’s encounter made you to conclude that you will not marry? She kind of smiled over that. I then continued, you can’t be serious. Your friend told you how much her husband has frustrated her life, did she tell you how much she has frustrated his life? When there is no clarity of purpose in any relationship, frustration and regret is bound to step in.
- Research and Knowledge:
One must understand that marriage is never of the child. Having a full knowledge of what you are about going into is a clue to enable one choose right and be able to build a godly and successful marriage. Equip yourself with the necessary information about the precious thing you seek. Understanding where and how to find it increases your chances of success.
You have to study the principles to a successful marriage. Yes, life is governed by principles. Once one is acquitted with these principles, they help one in building and maintaining a successful marriage. Whenever and whatever you aimed at in your relationship, people have experienced that. You need to read through their records and acquire the knowledge and technical know how. Whatever you do not have adequate knowledge about will master you.
- Patience and Persistence:
You should understand that good things does not come so easy. You have to develop that habit of not being in a hurry in choosing a life partner. Of course, you should be aware that all that glister are not gold. When you have the clarity of purpose, gathered as much knowledge as possible, you have to learn patience and persistence. Valuable things often take time to find. Being patient and persistent in your search is crucial.
Patience is one of the virtues anyone who desires to choose a life partner should stir up. Anyone who is not willing to exercise patience should let marriage be. Marriage will try your patience. At several point and level your patience bank will be tested. It does not matter who you are or whatever knowledge or degree one must have acquired, marriage will test how full is one’s patience tank.
- Value people:
You must have value for people if you want to make a successful relationship. You can’t be expelling people and be thinking to make the right choice. You have to deploy all the necessary tools and technic to assist one. Utilize all available resources, including people, tools, and technology. Sometimes, networking or using specialized tools can be the key to uncovering what you’re looking for.
- Timing:
When one is seeking for life partner, it is never the time to forsake the gathering of the brethren. You have to marry someone who believes in your belief. If possible, marry from your denomination. Everyone is not made for you. Choosing a life partner is beyond beauty, you need who will take you as you are. Love you for who you are, not for what you are.
Often, finding something precious is about being in the right place at the right time. Stay aware and seize opportunities as they arise. Every time and moment can count on this note. Since no one knows his or her time of visitation, one should value every moment to be in God’s presence as one trusts God for guidance towards seeking and locating the right partner.
- Trust Your Instincts:
You must understand what you are looking for and be alert to recognise when your path and the path of someone you seek for meet. It is very important to follow your heart especially when you know it is leading you right. There must be an inner witness when you meet him or her. At that moment one will be sure as he or she knows their name. Intuition can guide you in the right direction, especially when you have a strong sense of what you are looking for.
- Openness to Discovery:
In seeking for life partner, sometimes it is necessary to open up to people. You can share your thought with some persons who you know that means good for you. People can recommend someone for you and that does not mean anyone is forcing someone to you. You just have to check out and make your conclusion. You are responsible for any decision you make.
Sometimes, the most precious things are found when you are not actively searching for them. Keep an open mind to unexpected discoveries. It must not be the way you think it to happen that it will happy. Be open and it will amaze you what an amazing outcome you will encounter.
- Determination and Hard Work:
If you have make up your mind towards choosing a life partner, you should be determined and work hard into searching for her. It is your call and it is your responsibility. Whatever it will take you to get her, you have to pay the price. Whatever it will cost you, pay the price. When you find her, pay the price to get her for yourself.
The effort you put into your search often correlates with the value of what you find. Be prepared to work hard for what you value. As long as you cherish her, do everything in your power to get her.
