Be a man
“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.” (Genesis chapter 1 verses 27)
There is a common saying that to be a man is not a day’s job
The greatest challenge in the journey to manhood is a boy who refused to yield fully in the training to become a man. There is no problem that someone is born a boy, the problem is remaining a boy. No one was ever born a boy to remain there. You are expected as a boy to grow and be a man. There is more about a man and his destiny fulfilment than remaining just a boy.
It is wise to understand that a boy can either remain a boy or grow into a man. Destiny fulfilment and national transformation does not rest on the shoulders of a boy, it can rest on the shoulders of a man. To be a man calls for a price. There is a common saying that to be a man is not a day’s job. Of course it requires process. Anyone who desire to grow into manhood should be ready and eager to pay the price.
Growing into manhood is a deliberate act
There is no sentiment in the process of manhood. If anyone miss the setting, it will show after the whole build up. Man is the end product of a boy. Life is beyond just being a male. Life is more meaningful becoming a man. You can’t continue to think as a boy when you know you are more than such level at the moment. Growing into manhood is a deliberate act. You can’t think it is an accident to be a true man.
Being a man is not by age or one’s physical appearance. There are those when you look at, you will ascertain beyond reasonable doubt that he is a man. But when you hear him speak you will better understand where to place him. Age does not defined the manhood of a man. Some male grow physically but they did not grow intellectually. They lack in the place of wisdom which is the principle thing that defines a man.
When a man thinks responsibility, he thinks responsible
There are many restrictions in the journey of a male child until he grows into manhood. There are responsibilities which are delegated to a man. If you are not yet a man, you should desist from such responsibility. Man is not the function of one’s age or one’s status, it is a function of taking responsibility. Any man who does not cherish responsibility is not yet qualify to be called a man. Being a man comes with responsibilities.
The issue about failure in most marriages is the issue of men that failed in the place of their responsibilities. You cannot be a man without thinking responsibility. Being a full man alone is a huge responsibility. When a man thinks responsibility, he thinks responsible. There’s never a responsible man without a responsibility. It is responsibility that reveal the handsomeness of any man.
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” (Genesis chapter 2 verses 24)
If you are not yet a man, you don’t have a reason to be searching for a wife
God said, when a man is found faithful in the place of responsibility, it is on that note will he leave father and mother, knowing fully well he will take full responsibility of himself without any controversy. If you are not yet a man, you don’t have a reason to be searching for a wife. A boy can never handle the responsibility of marriage. The journey of marriage is for men, not boys.
Many homes that are broken today is as a result of boys who seem to be men occupying the place of man in the marriage. You cannot tell me you are a man, and anytime you engage in a conversation with your spouse, all you remind her is that my mother says this, my mother says that. I don’t care your age and status, you are nothing but a boy. You are not yet fit for marriage.
You know you are not yet ready and fit for marriage, don’t start a journey you cannot finished
How can you call yourself a man without taking responsibility for your action! You should be the man you are called to be. You refer to your mother, probably she is the one who pushed you into getting married. You know you are not yet ready and fit for marriage, don’t start a journey you cannot finished. Marriage will expose anyone who is not yet ready. If you are man, you will know. You do not need any prophet to prophesy that to you.
When you start saying, my father taught me to be a man is learning to embrace responsibility. I am still learning to embrace responsibility. And stop letting yourself down before your spouse by making her understand that you are a mummy’s boy, while you should be the son of your father. You can’t cleave to your wife as a boy, it will not fit in. God said, cleave to wife is never for boys but for men.
Conclusion:
It is not about your mate have gotten married. It is not about you are getting older. It is about you being man enough? Are you ready for this journey of marriage? If you are still dragging your feet at this point, you better deal with the dragging first. You need to be the man and you have to be a man.
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