THE ROLE OF MAN
22 –“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 – For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.” (Ephesians chapter 5 verses 22 to 23)
- The role of leader:
Leadership is an act of knowing the way, showing the way and going the way. It is God’s wisdom and desire that made you the head. You have to lead with humility. You don’t have intimacy with everybody in the house for the sake that you are the man. God has entrusted great responsibility in your hand, and that should create a mind set of responsibility in you.
“And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.” (Genesis chapter 3 verses 6)
In the scripture above, it was clear that Adam was there when Eve took the fruit, she ate and gave the man. He was there when satan was talking to Eve. They were at the wrong place at the moment and satan took advantage of that. When a man misses it in the place of leadership, anything is possible. Man was never made to substitute his leadership for anything.
- The role of protection:
“For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.” (Ephesians chapter 5 verses 23)
Husband is the protection of his home. Every husband should be at the forefront to challenge whatever that surfaces as a challenge to the family. Husband is the head of his family and he needs to prove he is fearless and he is bold to tackle whatever that dares mess up the family. Your wife and children need to know how far you can go to see they are protected.
- The role of love:
28 – So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 – For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 – For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 – For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 – This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 – Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.” (Ephesians chapter 5 verses 28 to 33)
The extent of the man’s love towards his family goes a long way to keep the family booming together. You can’t adequately love without giving. The quality of the love in the family, is the quality of what you give your wife and children.
- The role of provision:
“But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.” (Timothy chapter 5 verses 8)
It is the responsibility of the man to provide for his family. That is why he must work to protect his family through providing their basic needs. No one is saying that you must provide everything that your family list out. But you need to know the basic need and make it available to them. Give them time. Spend time with your family. Provide quality time to interact with the members of your household. It is your reasonable service to your family members.
- The role of honour:
“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.” (1Peter chapter 3 verses 7)
It is the man’s job and his responsibility to honour his wife. Men should stop treating their wives as their possessions. No, wife is part of the man. A man is never complete without a woman by her side. When you find one, you have to live your life treating her as a queen. When you honour her, she will live the rest of her life reverencing you.
- The role of companionship:
This deals with love, care and friendship. Of course your spouse should be your closest friend. If there is anyone to trust with your life, that should be your spouse. You can’t trust an outsider more than you trust the one you are living your whole life with.
23 – “And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
24 – Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” (Genesis chapter 2 verses 23 to 24)
Conclusion:
Everything about marriage was ever designed to be enjoyable. Men need to sit up and take responsibility. Anytime men fail in the place of their responsibilities, it always has effect in the marriage. That has actually caused a terrible breakdown in marriage. Some marriages have not survived the shock of their last encounter. Guard your marriage with everything you have.
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