Who finds a wife
It was on 21th May 2024 that I went to deliver goods to my clients. After I delivered the goods, I was on chatting and approaching the main estate gate. I decided to stand by to conclude the chat before I board a bike. As I was standing there chatting, there was this young man and young lady doing a POS transactions. One thing led to the order, I overheard the young guy say to the lady.
“Nne you need to marry someone that has money.”
“I need it honestly,” she responded. “I have lost so much money.”
“After you have touched so much money, you don’t need any man who is not rich,” Ikye said.
“I thought relocating would have made things easy for me,” she said. “I never knew it will be this tough after touching money.”
I was standing listening to their conversation while I was chatting as well. I wanted to leave and pretend as though I never heard anything. But on the other thought, I was moved to approach them. When I was done, I quietly walked to them and greeted. They raised their head looking at me. Ikye was sitting while she was standing.
“I am Buchi,” I said, looking into her eye ball.
“I am Chinyere,” she said, reluctantly.
“I overheard you guys discussion and that is why I am here.” She made two steps backward and almost lay on the wall. “You don’t need a rich man,” I said.
“I need a rich man especially after I have made money in the past,” she said, proudly.
“You need a man who will love and cherish you,” I said, calmly.
“Money is important in everything,” she said.
“I understand the importance of money in any relationship.” Of course she can see the ring in my finger. “There are necessary things that are needed to keep life flourishing, as long as he can make provision for that you are good to go.”
“Ok.” She nodded her head in agreement.
“Don’t put money ahead of your relationship. Don’t put career ahead of your relationship. If not, you might live to regret it. You see, when you marry a rich man, there is high level of probability that he might be seeing you as one of the properties he has.” I saw the shock on her face. “Yes, the way he sees his television, that is the way he might be seeing you.”
“I am a hard working person. I can work and make my own money. I don’t want to depend on any man,” she said, boldly.
“Where are you from?” I asked, calmly.
“I am from Anambra, Awka precisely,” she replied.
“That is the challenge most of you ladies have.” I cited some other communities around her town which have the same urge after making wealth, and she concord with me. “It is not evil to work hard and to acquire wealth as a lady. But the intention behind it can be evil. Most of you, your intention to work hard to acquire wealth is so that you can have your stand and never to completely submit to your husband. To most of you, you interpret your wealth as a tool to challenge your man. Yes I call him your man because if he was to be your husband, you would learn submission.
“You are right,” she said. Ikye was mopping as though that sounds strange to him.
“You are a beautiful young lady,” I confessed and she smiled. “Why did you relocate to Lagos?”
“I relocated because I wanted to start a new life. When I was in Awka, even as a student I was doing my business and was making money. I was comfortable and everything I need was at my disposal,” she said, boldly.
“You never had any regard for men,” I chipped in.
“Exactly!” She confessed. “During that period I had money, coupled with the fact that I am a graduate, it enters my head. Any man who comes around me, people will be saying can you handle her. It was as though everyone was running away from me. When I lost some millions of naira, that crushed my business and I just have to relocate.
“Relocating is never the wise decision, but here you are. It might be that the reason you lost money is because God wants to teach humility and submission. You need to learn submission. Do not fake it. It has to be real and flow from your heart. That man will come your way and even approach you, he might not look your taste at the moment, but give it time. Do not despise any man. If you add five years to your age you know what that means.”
“Eh,” she shouted. “God forbid! I can’t wait for next five years. I will be an old woman in the next five,” she said, smiling. But that was just the truth because I know she is in her mid-thirties.
She and Ikye were happy we had such warm time together and Ikye quickly demands for my contact which we exchanged.
As we ponder on the course on who finds a wife, the first priority of any woman whose intention is to be a wife is submission. Who finds a wife should find submission. If you are not ready to submit, you are not ready to have a husband. If you need a husband, the rule to have a husband is to learn submission. Until you as a lady understand the art of submission, you can’t understand the art of successful marriage.
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