12 regret of abuse of sex
1. Abuse steps in when the purpose of sex is ignored
Sex is a divine gift to the human race that was designed to be exercise and experience divinely. Sex is for the genuinely married husband and wife. Yes, God made them male and female. God never made them male and male or female and female. God made them male and female for the purpose of reproduction which sex is the path way to accomplished such divine order. Any sex that takes place between male and male or between female and female is an abused of sex. Such sex cannot fulfill its purpose. It does not matter how they try to justify the means. Sex out side marriage between husband and wife is an abuse of sex.
Sex between male and male or female and female is out of the divine context. As long as it is outside the divine context, it is an abused to sex since that does not correspond to the divine purpose sex was introduced. Sex brings the unity of souls and oneness of flesh, that is why God designed it for husband and wife. Sex dwells so well on the principle that two shall become one.
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” (Genesis chapter 2:24)
Sex outside its divine context is like someone playing with fire and thinking he or she will not get burned.
When the purpose of something is ignored, misuse and abuse becomes inevitable. Many people are gambling with what they don’t understand because they are so control by their flesh that they think they cannot help than going after exercise sex at all means. Ignorance is never an excuse when the repercussions stepped in. It is wise for one to stay away from engaging in sex when he or she is not yet ready and mature for that. Sex too sacred to be misused.
Sex is covenant based. When one undergoes sex, the both parties become covenantal to each other even if they don’t understand it. That does not matter, what matters was that there was a flow from one party to the other. When one observed the path of covenant, both parties will experience to be one by transactions. Whatever the male man carries at the moment, will be transfer to the female man. Whatever the female male carries, will be transfer to the male man.
2. Emotional health is destroy when there is abuse of sex
Sex could disastrous if practice out of the right context. Instead of people getting fulfill, they will be left empty and battered. Sex involves the two parties soul. It is a spiritual exercise that demands that it should be done on the rightful context. The soul is affected badlyyl when sex is misused. The ability to bold is destroyed and insecurity increases as such relationship cannot hold much.
Sex has a greater ability to form soul-ties which can created lasting bond. When sex is misused, instead of resulting to the needful, it leads to pain, emotional disarray and disconnection, it leads to deep confusion, guilt and cause heartbreak. Sex abuse can distort one’s identity.
3. The spiritual sensitivity weakens when there is abuse of sex
Remember that sex is more of spiritual than the physical. You see, it is not just for singles that can experience sex abuse, married people as husband and wife can experience sex abuse. When people leave the right opening that was designed for sex and start going through the opening that was not designed for sex, that becomes sex abuse, and it comes with great repercussions.
Those who engage in sex abuse easily lose their spiritual sensitivity and discernment. It cause their intimacy with God start growing sour. It causes closed heaven, opens doors for guilt and condemnation. There is need to know that sexual immorality affects both the body, the soul and the spirit. I Cor 6 :18. Anything that can affect the spirit can create spiritual conflicts which can disorganised the entire systems.
4. Divine marriage covenant breaks when there is abuse of sex
God designed sex to be a means of establishing covenant between husband and wife. It is also a factor to continue the renewal of such covenant. The original plan of sex is to unite husband and wife as one flesh. For two shall become one. Sex is sacred. It is too holy for one to take it casually. When the abuse of sex, it affects the covenant that established such union. It brings corruption and cause obscurity in marriage. Once the covenant based is tampered, spiritual oneness between husband and wife can be corrupt.
5. Exploitation in relationship breaks in when there is abuse of sex
There are time when people start seeing their partners as a tools to fulfill their sexual urge, not because they have this love towards this person. The only time such person becomes relevant is when the other person feels he or she is of great urge towards the opposite gender. At this point, sex becomes transactional instead of relational. It is obvious that when sex is misused, people begin to use others for their selfish fulfillment. Here people become tool, instead of body, soul and spirit. Of course, when this happens, people start feeling that they are being manipulated. They feel worthless and loss of their reputation. Because of sexual abuse, some persons does not have value and regard for the opposite gender any more.
6. Damages in relationship steps in when there is abuse of sex
It takes so much truth to build a trust, but a moment of sexual misused can put an end to that. Trust that took decades to build, can just vanish like a vapour in the air at an act of sexual abuse. Abuse of sex does no good but it can destroy everything. Some persons have actually ruined their wonderful relationship at the misused of sex. There are things you should not do in a relationship. That is why boundaries is very important to set.
People will always withdraw from the relationship they are facing abuse. It is madness for someone to be facing sexual abuse and still remain in such relationship. Once abuse of sex steps in, commitment will start fading away, loyalty will not find its ground any more and things will start growing sour. What expectations can one be expecting in a relationship that has gone sour. The centre cannot hold any more, therefore things are falling apart.
7. The abuse of sex leads to addiction and loss of self-control
Too much of anything can lead to addiction. Addiction did not just occur. It takes several times of practice for addiction to occur. Once addiction has steps in, there is high percentage that lack of self-control will step in. Addiction can make one to break boundaries that he or she could not have break on a normal sense. One of the greatest regret of abuse of sex is addiction and loss of self-control. Addiction brings uncontrollable desire for sex which will be difficult for one to breakout without spiritual help.
There are those who could not sleep a day as single and young person without the opposite sex. That is crazy. Human being were never created to act in such manner. It is animals that live such lives to be sleeping around. That is perversion of sex when one lost control whenever he or she sees an opposite gender pass. There is more to life than one to be addicted to sex and forget the true purpose of life and living. It is as dangerous as whatever practicing sex outside God’s boundary. That can mostly lead to damnation.
8. Society corrupts when there is abuse of sex
Because sex is covenant based, abuse of sex can result to several consequences. A society that is enveloped by sexual immorality, good things are always in the hard end to acquire. How did you think a society will turn out when men and sleeping with fellow men. Women are sleeping with fellow women. Men and women sleeping with beasts. This is abuse of sex. That is out of God’s boundary and it must attract repercussions. The blessing of God is far away such society.
Due to all of these sorts, many marriages have lost the true taste of their marriages. The value of many marriages have collapsed of the basic of this. Of course a threat to marriage is a threat to family. Many families have break down because many marriages cannot hold value again. Once the family is in disarray, the children up bringing is tempered with. Children grow with wounded heart. If care is not taken, they become havoc to the society. They become violence and commit themselves to sexual crime every where they are.
9. Reputation ruins when there is abuse of sex
Sex deals with the soul and the spirit, it is more spiritual than physical. Some persons are living their lives in regret because of one move of sexual abuse they made. They ever lived regretting everything about their existence. Abuse of sex has the capacity to draw and drag one into the mud of guilt, shame and loss of identity. Abuse of sex can put a strain on someone that cannot be rinsed all through the person’s life time.
Some persons mental health and confidence have been distorted because of abuse of sex. To some of them that singular act so much affected their inner being that they don’t have the confidence to express themselves in the public. To some case people do not want to have anything serious to do with such person. People will be running away from him because he smells abuse of sex. This can cause inner regret that only spiritual can help.
10. Sex can weaponised when there is abuse of sex
Since some persons have practiced sex outside God’s boundary and now became addicted to it, they can be manipulated by that. People have lost everything they have worked for because of abuse of sex. I remember a saying that any day one sleeps with his secretary, he has shared his business into two. What a misnomer! That is never how life was designed in the first place. Some people at the moment, sex is the tool to control their entire being.
Once it gets to this point, one does not expect good things to be happening. Some persons faced all kinds of manipulation and deception. He is easily deceived by a moment of sex. This can brings heartbreak at last and someone feels he or she has been betray. Many relationship has failed because of high level of distrust that originated from abuse of sex. Abuse of sex cannot build a genuine relationship, it will only cause pain
11. Lust is enthroned when there is abuse of sex
Sex is a divine gift from God to humanity. One of the goals is to bring fulfilment. Sex is responsibility and it should be done responsible. Sex is covenant and it should be practiced between husband and wife. Sex is commitment is should serve as a symbol to the renewal of covenant. Whenever there is an abuse of sex, all of these are no longer in place, instead lust is enthroned.
It is at this point that some persons attribute lust for love. They are after fulfilling their sexual pleasure not that they have any purpose in view in such relationship. When lust is enthroned, commitment and discipline and be replace by personal desires. People does not care what is the ordinance of sex, to them it is a hunger that they have to take care of by any means. When it becomes by any means, that means there is a problem.
12. Bitter consequences occur when there is abuse of sex
An abuse of sex can result pains, guilt and regret. There is a case of a young beautiful lady, who has engaged in multiple sex and abortions which have affected her womb by medical report. She is still young in her twenties, hoping that some day she will get married, but her fear, pain and regret at the moment is that her chances to conceive is less than thirty percent by medical report.
She may have grow from a Christian home, but she was experiencing spiritual dryness and bitterness. She was bitter with herself at the moment, because she doubted the possibility of anything good coming out from her. What if she diagnosed with deadly disease like the young man who contacted HIV. When one misused what is set sacred, the consequences are there. If you temper with sex outside God’s boundary, you can be burnt with shame, pain and regret.
In conclusion:
It is wise to understand that sex is never the problem and it can never be the problem of the human race. The problem about it all is the way people go about it to satisfy their lust. Sex is a beautiful gift to bring fulfilment if practice within God’s boundary. If you have found yourself in this mess there is a way out. You have to make Jesus Christ your personal Lord and Saviour. Trust Him to make you whole by healing your past wound and grant you the grace for self-confidence and self-control. Embrace discipline and responsibility. Vow never to engage to any form of sexual abuse. God’s grace to live right is sufficient for you.
